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Friday, January 22, 2010   MOTHERFUCKER Update: Apparently, he is divorced, but it was finalized in Montana. (Really? I want to see proof.) I spoke with one of his former co-workers, and everyone in his former office knows he's married. If he's divorced, wouldn't his co-workers know that? Perception is reality--if he's really divorced, then the people he works with should know or have figured that out. (And no, he doesn't wear a wedding ring.) He's not sure he wants to be with me, but he doesn't want to break up. I'm done making the effort. I'm done trying. I'm done. If he really wants to be with me, then I'm breaking out the flaming hoops and the boy better jump through every last one. Twice. Forward and backward. With somersaults. If he seriously wants to be with me, then I need to see different actions that back that up, assuming that he can prove that he is divorced. I have a feeling that it's going to break down there--he won't be able to find the paperwork or can't remember the county where the divorce was finalized. But assuming he can get past that, I need him to call when he says he will and call when he hasn't told me that he will. I need him to court me, to pursue me, to indicate to me through actions that he wants to be with me. And he's going to have to do that until I think he's serious, which may be a long time. And I have to back off, and not be so quick to be nice or to make the first move or to be so giving. He's going to a job interview in the Virgin Islands this weekend and will be back Monday night. And the Vegas over Christmas thing? He could have made up a more plausible story, but he told me the truth. Good to know he's a good liar. Oh, wait, suddenly, when he has to pay for his airfare and travel up front, then get reimbursed by the company offering the job interview, he can't make that happen. So now he's not going. Surprise, surprise. He doesn't want to accept that I'm done with things, and we've agreed to talk on Wednesday over lunch. I don't trust him, and I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. And it takes more than a lunch to prove that he wants to be with me. ARGGGG!!!!! posted by jaime | 2:27 PM 2 comments

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